Managing Your Expectations

I have no idea at what stage of this exhausting journey you will be when you read this. Many grieving people have unrealistic expectations about how quickly they should arrive at the neighbourhood of new hope. When it takes much longer than expected and involves more hard work than imagined, they sometimes experience a loss of self-confidence and self-esteem.

This well-known promise from the Bible does not have any deadlines attached to it.
"But they who wait for the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint." ~ Isaiah 40:31
 
We do not know how long we need to wait. If you’re feeling doubtful or hopeless at whatever stage you are in, ask yourself questions like, “Have I mistakenly given myself a deadline for when I should be over my grief? Am I expecting myself to heal more quickly than is possible?” 


**If the answer to such questions is yes, you may be hindering your own healing by expecting too much of yourself too soon.**