What Helps Children?

Routine helps children just as it helps us. We have already mentioned the importance of routine. Even the simplest routine will help a child focus on something other than the present trauma. Whenever possible, connect the routine to something positive. It might be a past routine that has connections to a positive memory.  It might be a new routine that you create and associate with a bible verse or comforting thought.
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Here is one idea. Since meals are an important and ever-present routine, ask them to set the table in a special way at each meal. Connect the table setting with something with a story or picture of hope. It could be a simple decoration, a special plate with a story, or a piece of cutlery with its own symbolism.

As I am writing this I am thinking of a desert spoon. Recently, I saw the dessert spoon put in a special place above the plate instead of on the side. When I saw it placed this way, I thought of a Christian lady who requested that she be buried with a desert spoon. When asked why, she said, “When the table setting has a desert spoon, I always know that the best is yet to come. Because I know I will spend eternity in heaven after I die, I know the best is yet to come.”   

This may not work for you but I present it as an example. Ask God for creative ideas for your child and your situation.

Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old.  Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? Isaiah 43:18-19